Why and when did people become such cowards? Yes, this has to do with online dating. So when did it become appropriate to “ghost” someone? Am I the only one out here that would rather be told I’m too ____ whatever than just to be ignored. Honestly, I would rather someone tell me I am too ugly or too fat than just be ignored. You know what I mean?
I have always been a curious person. I want to know why. I am also one of those that likes my observations from the principal in the classroom because I want feedback. I want constructive criticism. I want to know what I am doing wrong, so it can be corrected. I want to be better at whatever I am doing because there is always room for growth. I am also the person that loves closure. I don’t like leaving things unsaid and undone. However, this ghosting seems to be the cool thing to do. Who am I kidding? This isn’t anything new. My son’s father did it. Just left without a phone call or a goodbye. In the long run, I ended up better for it, but it is such a cowardly thing to do.
I know this sounds so judgmental with very little understanding on my part, but I have always been the type of person that owns up to her mistakes. I have always been the type of person that wanted to have closure no matter the pain it caused, it at least offered a way to heal.
I guess, this online dating isn’t for me. I’ve only been signed up for a bit so I shouldn’t be so quick to close the door on it, but I can’t deal with people who take the quick way on everything. People in online dating tend to move way too fast and skip the steps of getting to know each other, and then they just slip out without offering you an explanation. I want someone real, and I am not sure I can find it through the virtual process.
Just be real. Just tell people the truth. That doesn’t mean be harsh and hateful, but give people a reason. Don’t be such a coward.